THE ART OF CONFRONTATION

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In the body of Christ, we all have to deal with offenses which lead to confrontation. How we confront our brothers and sisters in Christ, friends, family members, coworkers, even the unsaved, makes all the difference in the world if we want to be peacemakers, maintain unity, and keep a good witness. That’s what I want to address today.

Lately, God has impressed upon me two areas where He wants me to come up higher in my love walk:

1) Think the best about others when I observe offensive behavior.

2) Be gentle when I have to confront people who cross my boundaries.

Because we live in a fallen world, we will step on each other’s toes or offend one another, from time to time. That’s when we have to employ the strategy of 2 Timothy 2:24-26 which reads:

24 And the Lord’s servant must not be quarrelsome but must be kind to everyone, able to teach, not resentful. 25 Opponents must be gently instructed, in the hope that God will grant them repentance leading them to a knowledge of the truth, 26 and that they will come to their senses and escape from the trap of the devil, who has taken them captive to do his will.

There are several nuggets we can take away from this so that when we do have to confront, we have the best possible outcome and get the results we desire.

  1. Be kind. Kindness will break down their defenses and make them more receptive to your message.
  2. Be a teacher. As a teacher, your goal is to help them to learn principles for interacting effectively with others.
  3. Be unresentful. Get rid of the anger before you approach them, and this will set the stage for a more fruitful outcome.
  4. Be gentle. Gentleness will cause them to be more likely to respond gently in return and keep the enemy from escalating the situation.

Furthermore, I think that if we apply the principle of “thinking no evil”
(I Corinthians 13:5), we will be much more likely to put these principles into practice. Very often we get angry because we believe that people are deliberately trying to hurt us when they really aren’t. As Jesus said on the cross, “Father, forgive them, for they do not know what they are doing” (Luke 23:34). II Timothy 2:26 confirms this when verse 26 says they need to come to their senses because the devil has “taken them captive to do his will.” They really don’t know what they are doing. We have to believe if they knew better they would do better.

When we confront God’s way, the results will be manifold and the offenders will:

  1. Be more likely to repent.
  2. Gain knowledge that will help them to improve their social interactions.
  3. Be enlightened and come out of their state of being deceived by the enemy.
  4. Be delivered from Satan’s control.

Saints, if you feel you need help in the area of confrontation, I challenge you to adhere to these guidelines laid out for us in the Word. We will probably have a better chance of a positive outcome if we can avoid generating defensiveness, and the Holy Spirit will be more able to effectively convict them. Finally, learning the art of confrontation is necessary if we want to maintain the unity of the Spirit in the bond of peace as stated in  Ephesians 4:3.

How can you apply 2 Timothy 2:24-26 to your relationships? Please leave a comment below.

 

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GOOD QUESTIONS TO ASK YOURSELF IF YOU WANT TO BE AN OVERCOMER

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I pray the favor of God is showing up in massive ways in your life and that you are blessed and abounding to every good work. Today, I want to focus on some questions Paul asked in Romans 8 we need to ask ourselves when it comes to living a victorious life.  Let’s face it, sometimes the enemy uses people, even other believers at times, to come against us. He orchestrates adverse situations in our lives in an effort to keep us from reaching our destiny. When he does, not only do we need to ask ourselves these questions, but we need to readily know the answers deep down in our souls if we are to escape the traps set by the devil and fulfill the plan God has for our lives. If we don’t know the truth in our inward parts (Psalm 51:6), we will fall prey to the enemy’s deception.

Let’s look at Romans 8:31-35. These are the questions we as believers should ask ourselves and have ready answers that come from knowing who we are in Christ:

  1. If God be for us, who can be against us? (verse 31) When you find yourself in a conflict or that people are warring against you, remember that God is on the side of the righteous. Remember God is your Daddy, and He’s bigger than any adversary that you could ever face. If the enemy is advancing against you today, you don’t have to fear. God says He is for you and the battle is not yours but His (2 Chronicles 20:15).
  2. Who shall lay anything to the charge of God’s elect? (verse 33) We are justified by faith. That means that God sees us through the blood of Jesus as if we have never done anything wrong. The divine exchange, where Jesus took our sin and gave us His righteousness, has taken place. When your humanity shows and the devil starts to wield accusations at you, hell-bent on pointing out your faults, keep in mind that God Himself has justified you. There is no need to even defend yourself.
  3. Who is he that condemeth? (verse 34) None of us is perfect. Very often when we make mistakes, we find that people will judge and condemn us. But God says in Romans 8:1, “There is no condemnation to those who are in Christ Jesus, who walk according to the Spirit, and not according to the flesh.” Therefore, refuse to receive condemnation from anyone, and that includes the devil and yourself. Remember, Christ died for you.
  4. Who shall separate us from the love of God? (verse 35) It’s important that you’re rooted and grounded in the love of God. If you do not recognize that God loves you unconditionally, the devil will wreak havoc in your life. Without the love of God, you will live in constant fear (I John 4:18), and you will have trouble loving people because you won’t be able to love yourself. Therefore, it’s important that you know beyond a shadow of a doubt that NOTHING and NO ONE can separate you from His love.

So as you can see, Beloved, Paul asked these serious questions because it’s important that you know the answers like the back of your hand.  As Maya Angelou once said, “If you know better, you do better.” If you believe right, you will live right. When you are able to correctly answer these questions, you will be a victorious overcomer in Christ, and the devil won’t even be able to handle you.

Which question above resonates with you most and why?  Please leave a comment below.

 

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