Today, I want to talk to you about the topic of conflict resolution. Unfortunately, conflict is inevitable. Therefore, If we want to have good relationships, we must become proficient at resolving conflicts that arise.
Personally, I use to avoid conflict until I realized that If I do avoid confrontation, there is a greater chance that the relationship will suffer and die or the intimacy in the relationship will be jeopardized. However, if I do confront, there is a better chance the relationship can be improved. Therefore, I now confront when I need to, even if it feels like I am jumping off the high dive into the deep end of the pool.
Many times the reason we don’t confront is because of fear. Specifically, fear of being hurt again by people’s response or loss of the relationship. But there is a remedy for that: God’s perfect love. He says acknowledgement and acceptance of His perfect love cast out fear (I John 4:18). His perfect love for us should compel us to overcome our fears and confront conflict head-on with hope and faith that a better relationship will be the end result. After all, Matthew 18:15 says, “If your brother or sister sins, go and point out their fault, just between the two of you.” With that being said, let’s look at a few verses from I Corinthians 13 (verses 4-8), The Love Chapter, that will empower you to have more confidence when it comes to conflict resolution.
- Love is not self-seeking – God loves you and His goal is to always look out for your best interests, not His own. He always has YOUR best interest at heart. He wants your relationships to work, and He wants you to grow and mature in your faith. Sometimes that is accomplished through conflict. Know that God has your back when you apply the principles of the Word.
- Love rejoices with the truth – His goal is to make sure truth prevails in all our interactions with people (John 16:13). The Holy Spirit will take up the cause of helping each person in the relationship to see what needs to be seen. Therefore, when we pray, we can trust that when He unveils the truth and the parties involved submit to it, the conflict can be successfully resolved.
- Love always protects – God is fiercely protective of you. Psalms 91:4 says, “His truth shall be your shield and buckler.” If we look to Him as protector and defender and stop trying to protect our own selves, we can confidently confront and engage in conflict resolution necessary to improve our relationships. However, if we choose to defend and protect ourselves instead of letting the Holy Spirit fight for us, we will probably end up saying things we have no business saying.
- Love always perseveres – The Lord will help you and make sure He sees you through to the end of your conflict-laden situation. He says in Genesis 25:15 says, “I will not leave you until I have done what I have promised you.” If you will hang in there and refuse to give up, God will hang in there with you and won’t give up. He will help you see the conflict through to resolution.
Beloved, God wants you to have good, healthy relationships. In fact, that’s what Jesus died for. He came to reconcile us to God, and also make the power available so that we can be reconciled to each other here on earth. Reconciliation is not always possible, but there is a greater chance when we invite God into our difficult situations. Therefore, let’s keep God’s love factored into the equation at all times, confront when we need to confront, and trust God to help us to improve our relationships with the people to whom He has strategically and divinely connected us.
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