PERFECT LOVE CAST OUT THE FEAR OF CONFLICT

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Today, I want to talk to you about the topic of conflict resolution. Unfortunately, conflict is inevitable. Therefore, If we want to have good relationships, we must become proficient at resolving conflicts that arise.

Personally, I use to avoid conflict until I realized that If I do avoid confrontation, there is a greater chance that the relationship will suffer and die or the intimacy in the relationship will be jeopardized. However, if I do confront, there is a better chance the relationship can be improved. Therefore, I now confront when I need to, even if it feels like I am jumping off the high dive into the deep end of the pool.

Many times the reason we don’t confront is because of fear.  Specifically, fear of being hurt again by people’s response or loss of the relationship. But there is a remedy for that: God’s perfect love. He says acknowledgement and acceptance of His perfect love cast out fear (I John 4:18). His perfect love for us should compel us to overcome our fears and confront conflict head-on with hope and faith that a better relationship will be the end result. After all, Matthew 18:15 says, “If your brother or sister sins, go and point out their fault, just between the two of you.” With that being said, let’s look at a few verses from I Corinthians 13 (verses 4-8), The Love Chapter, that will empower you to have more confidence when it comes to conflict resolution.

  • Love is not self-seeking – God loves you and His goal is to always look out for your best interests, not His own. He always has YOUR best interest at heart. He wants your relationships to work, and He wants you to grow and mature in your faith. Sometimes that is accomplished through conflict. Know that God has your back when you apply the principles of the Word.
  • Love rejoices with the truth – His goal is to make sure truth prevails in all our interactions with people (John 16:13). The Holy Spirit will take up the cause of helping each person in the relationship to see what needs to be seen. Therefore, when we pray, we can trust that when He unveils the truth and the parties involved submit to it, the conflict can be successfully resolved.
  • Love always protects – God is fiercely protective of you. Psalms 91:4 says, “His truth shall be your shield and buckler.”  If we look to Him as protector and defender and stop trying to protect our own selves, we can confidently confront and engage in conflict resolution necessary to improve our relationships.  However, if we choose to defend and protect ourselves instead of letting the Holy Spirit fight for us, we will probably end up saying things we have no business saying.
  • Love always perseveres – The Lord will help you and make sure He sees you through to the end of your conflict-laden situation. He says in Genesis 25:15 says, “I will not leave you until I have done what I have promised you.” If you will hang in there and refuse to give up, God will hang in there with you and won’t give up. He will help you see the conflict through to resolution.

Beloved, God wants you to have good, healthy relationships. In fact, that’s what Jesus died for. He came to reconcile us to God, and also make the power available so that we can be reconciled to each other here on earth. Reconciliation is not always possible, but there is a greater chance when we invite God into our difficult situations. Therefore, let’s keep God’s love factored into the equation at all times, confront when we need to confront, and trust God to help us to improve our relationships with the people to whom He has strategically and divinely connected us.

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SOME DECISIONS NEED TO BE MADE AHEAD OF TIME

 

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We all have trials we go through in life. Jesus said, “In this world, you will have tribulation, but be of good cheer. I have overcome the world.” If we are going to be overcomers in this world, we have to make some decisions. Not only do we need to make decisions, but we need to make some decisions ahead of time if we are going to see victory:

  1. I won’t let fear paralyze me. It’s not a sin to experience fear. However, it is a sin to allow fear to cause you to disobey God and fail to do what He has instructed you to do. Make up in your mind you will do it afraid if necessary.
  2. Although the situation looks overwhelming, I’m not getting overwhelmed. We get overwhelmed when we fail to factor God into the equation. When the spirit of overwhelm attacks you, Say out loud, “I’m not getting overwhelmed because God is with me.” Then say to God, “Lord, what do you want me to do?”
  3. I will forgive anyone who hurts me immediately. Jesus said offenses will come (Luke 17:1). Therefore, before you even leave your house in the morning, be determined that you will forgive everyone the enemy works through to wound you right on the spot. Then allow God to fight your battles.
  4. I will walk in love no matter what others do. You will encounter rude people on your journey. The devil takes people captive to do his will (2 Timothy 2:26). However. You have to be determined to walk in love and give the response Jesus would in spite of how people treat you.
  5. I will believe the Word of God no matter what I see. As believers, we walk by faith and not by sight (2 Corinthians 5:7). We have to refuse to let our senses deceive us into thinking that the Word is not true. Make up in your mind that when you encounter a situation that contradicts the Word of God, you will stand on His holy Word and say, “God said it, I believe it, and that settles it.”
  6. I will obey God even when I don’t understand. God’s instructions don’t always make sense to us, but from His perspective, they make perfect sense. The reason is that He sees the big picture, and we only see only a sliver of what He sees. Therefore, since sees the end from the beginning (Isaiah 46:10), we need to trust that He knows what He’s doing and just simply obey.
  7. I will never turn my back on God no matter what happens in my life. I have run into people who get mad at God because things didn’t happen in their life the way they expected. Someone died, or it appears that God didn’t come through for them. They questioned His existence and disconnected from Him. Do not allow the enemy to deceive you. Make up in your mind that you will love God unconditionally all the way into eternity even if things don’t go as you had planned.

As you can see, Saints, the decisions we make ahead of time can make all the difference in the world. They can mean the difference between the “thrill of victory and the agony of defeat.” When you make up in your mind beforehand what you will do, you don’t have to think about it when the time comes. You just do it. So decide now and ask for the Holy Spirit’s help to follow through on your decisions so that you can be the overcomer that God intends for you to be.

Which decision above has impacted your life the most and how? Please leave a comment below.

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