THE STRONGHOLD OF SHAME, FEAR AND CONTROL

 

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Today I want to talk to you about the negative emotion of Shame. I heard a statistic the other day that 80% of the population operates with a shame-based nature.  The first question is what is shame? How is it different from conviction, guilt and condemnation?

  • Conviction is the Holy Spirit simply making you aware that you have committed a sin without any negative judgment about you as a person.
  • Guilt is the emotion that results when you become aware that you have done something wrong via the conviction of the Holy Spirit.
  • Condemnation is the sense of being a bad person the devil puts upon you after you become aware that you have sinned and experience guilt.
  • Shame is a general feeling of being hopelessly defective or not good enough in your own eyes and/or in the eyes of others, including God.

The Shame, Fear, and Control Stronghold

Chester and Betsy Klystra, founders of Restoring the Foundations Ministry, introduced an interesting paradigm I think all of us should be aware of. They called it the Shame, Fear, Control Stronghold. Shame, fear, and control can each be a stronghold in and of themselves. However, the Klystras relay that when they are combined, they form a “super stronghold” that is very hard to break.

Chester and Betsy point out that the first time this pattern was introduced to mankind was in Genesis 4. In  the Garden of Eden, after Adam and Eve sinned by eating from the Tree of Knowledge of Good and Evil, Adam basically told God, “I was naked, I was ashamed, I hid myself, so I covered myself.” We do the same thing today.  We are aware and ashamed of our flaws and imperfections. We fear that people will find out who we really are, and we behave in ways to keep our flaws and imperfections covered so we can control how people see us or perceive us.

Breaking the Super Stronghold

The Bible says the weapons of our warfare are not carnal, but mighty through God to the pulling down of strongholds (I Corinthians 13:10). Therefore, how can you break the stronghold of shame, fear and control? With the help of the Holy Spirit you must:

  1. Become aware of the shame that binds you.
  2. Become aware of controlling behaviors that are based in fear.
  3. Ask God to heal you of soul wounds that caused the shame in the first place.
  4. Receive a deep revelation of who you are in Christ based on the Word of God.
  5. Make a deliberate choice to face fear and stop controlling behaviors.

Beloved, you must make it your goal to live free of shame if you are ever to fulfil the purpose and plan God has for you. Be willing to do whatever it takes to get the truth into your heart and allow God to heal you of every soul wound. With the help of the Lord, the stronghold of shame, fear, and control, can be broken, and you will be able to live your life under the sole control of the Holy Spirit.

Do you recognize the shame, fear, and control paradigm? How do you think it has affected your life? Please leave a comment below.

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WHEN BAD THINGS HAPPEN TO GOOD PEOPLE

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Have you ever had a time in your life, where you felt you were doing everything right, and your life still seemed to fall apart? Unfortunately, bad things do happen to good people. How we handle those bad events will determine the course of our destiny. We have to keep our thoughts going in the right direction. We cannot afford to allow the devil to deceive us into being mad at God because if we disconnect ourselves from the Power Source, we’re doomed. Therefore, if you’re going to stay connected to the Lord in the difficult times, you have to remember a few things:

  1. Jesus said in this world you will have tribulation. Doing the right thing does not exempt you from trials. In Matthew 14:22-24, the disciples found that out when Jesus told them to get in the boat and go across the lake, and they ended up encountering a storm. They did what they were told and still entered rough waters, and so will we. However, Jesus says in John 16:33, although we will experience tribulation, “Be of good cheer, I have overcome the world.”
  2. No weapon formed against you will prosper. God says the weapons the devil uses against you won’t prosper. He never said they wouldn’t form. So why is it that we get bent out of shape when hit a proverbial snag, and the devil hits us with his best shot? God said it won’t work! Therefore, you must ask the Father for His instructions, follow them, and then “stand still and see the salvation of the Lord.”
  3. God uses adversity to get glory for Himself. One of the reasons we have to go through adversity is so that God can make Himself visible and tangible to us. How else are we going to “see” Him or know that He exists unless He manifests himself through supernatural acts? God wants to get glory for Himself. Why? Not because He is an egomaniac, but because He needs to be seen in this earth so that people know that He exists. Only then will they come to Him for the salvation and help they so desperately need.

Therefore, when adversity strikes, you must cling to God with all your might. You must have the bulldog kind of faith that refuses to let go of God’s promises. You must be determined that no matter what happens, who lives, who dies, who gets healed or doesn’t get healed, whether the money comes or not, you will serve Lord.  As Peter said in John 6:68 when Jesus asked the disciples if they were going to abandon Him, “To whom shall we go? You have the words of eternal life.”

Beloved, we all are going to have “situations” occur in our lives even if we are doing everything we are supposed to be doing. That’s not negative thinking. That’s just reality. Jesus has already told us this. The question is how will you handle the adversity when it comes? Will you trust in God’s love for you, expect Him to keep His Word to you, and believe Jesus has already overcome any circumstance in which you may find yourself?  Or will you get angry with God, turn your back on Him, declare He’s not real, or that He doesn’t love you? You must make up in your mind now, before adversity strikes, that you will go all the way with God no matter what. Then you can truthfully sing that old hymn, I Have Decided to Follow Jesus, which ends with the declaration, “No turning back, no turning back.”

Have you ever experienced a time of multiple trials? What did you learn from that episode? Please leave a comment below.

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Would you like to receive your FREE e-chapbook entitled, Your Faith Has Made You Whole: Poems and Inspirational Writings for Spiritual Transformation, by Tracey L. Moore? Go to www.traceylmoore.com and subscribe to the email list.

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