WAYS TO WARD OFF OFFENSE

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Have you ever had someone you trusted betray you? Maybe you needed help and they weren’t there for you.  Now you have a wound in your soul you have to deal with, and you’re struggling with forgiveness issues. As I’m sure you well know, Jesus said that when a brother sins against you, you must forgive them seventy times seven (Matthew 18:22). Sometimes that’s very difficult, but here some thoughts to ponder that will help you to make the decision to forgive and continue moving toward your destiny:

It’s not about you. When someone betrays you, sins against you, or fails you in some way, you must realize it’s not about you. You really need to be thankful because they have just revealed something to you that you needed to know. Maybe they have a character flaw, but at least you now know that.  If they are not for you, you need to know that. Maybe they are in competition with you on some level. Thank God it’s been exposed so that you can plead the blood over yourself and make divine connections with people who God has ordained to help you to reach your destiny.  My point is this: don’t take it personally. What’s going on inside of them is the reason they have responded to you the way they have responded.

God’s plan cannot be thwarted. Whatever they did or did not do, you need to understand that God’s plan cannot be thwarted. (Job 42:2) God can use anyone He wants to get His plans accomplished in your life. That’s His prerogative because He’s sovereign. When you get mad because someone didn’t help you or betrayed you (or whatever it was they did), you are bucking against God’s decision to not use that person or His decision to use that person for another purpose you don’t yet understand. Maybe He wants to accomplish spiritual growth in you. Whatever the case may be, you need to know that God can use any means He chooses to get His plan accomplished in your life, and He can go around people who appear to not be cooperating with that plan.

That’s your cue to pray. When people offend you, sometimes it is just a communication that they are battling their own demons. They have issues that are driving them, and they may not even be aware of them. Therefore, hurtful behavior should be taken as your cue to pray. Hurting people need our prayers. They are probably wrestling with something that is bigger than they are capable of handling on their own. We all need people to pray for us at times. When someone has come against you in a negative way, the most loving thing you can do for them is pray.

The way you think about the situation will determine how profoundly it will affect you. When people sin against you with words or deeds and you get offended, many times, whatever it was that they did, in reality, does not really harm you emotionally unless you interpret it improperly.  It is the negative interpretation of the event that puts a wound in your soul. If Isaiah 54:17 states that “No weapon formed against you shall prosper,” and Luke 10:19 says, “Behold, I give unto you power to tread on serpents and scorpions, and over all the power of the enemy: and nothing shall by any means hurt you,” then you can indeed live above the enemy’s onslaughts through people.  You simply must know who you are in Christ and be firmly rooted and grounded in regards to your worth and value. People’s words and deeds cannot hurt you when you refuse to allow the work of the enemy through them to define who you are. Romans 8:28 says that God will make sure that everything works for your good anyway.

So when someone in your life betrays you or did not respond in a way you expected, you don’t have to allow that to wound your soul and thwart your progress toward your destiny.  Your job is to forgive, love, bless, pray for, and do good to those who come against you according to the Word (Matthew 5:44). When you realize it’s not about you, that God’s plan cannot be thwarted, and think of the situation from the perspective of God’s Word, you can rise above their words and actions and fulfill God’s ultimate plan for your life.

How have you successfully handled an offense? What steps will you take to ward off offense in your life? Leave a comment below.

 

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LESSONS LEARNED IN THE MIDST OF TRAGEDY

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I have something heavy on my heart to share today. Some of you may know, but many of you may not know, that recently I had a horrific tragedy happen in my life. I am a private person when it comes to my personal life, and for the most part, I don’t share personal life events on Facebook. As the Purposeful Poet, my goal is to encourage, uplift and inspire people to be their best for Christ. However, today I feel the Lord is leading me to share a painful portion of my journey with you, and I hope and pray that my testimony will help someone out there get through a difficult time in life or perhaps be set free in some way.

I want to tell you about my beloved, Steven Allen Williamson, Sr., one who  was very dear to me. We had known each other for almost 6 years. He was an excellent HVAC Technician, and we met when he came over to my house to fix my boiler which wasn’t working properly. We became best friends, and after being in a love relationship with him on and off for over five years, we finally got officially engaged on August 8, 2016. September 24, 2016, was supposed to be our wedding day, and I was to become Mrs. Stephen Allen Williamson, Sr. Unfortunately, the wedding never took place. My beloved fiancé died on September 7th of a massive heart attack two days before his 60th birthday and 17 days before our wedding day. I walked into his apartment only to find him lying on the bathroom floor cold and lifeless. I screamed, I cried, I prayed, I commanded life to come back into him, I tried to perform CPR, but he was already gone. He had passed away in the middle of the night. That traumatic scenario  will be indelibly etched into my memory for eternity.

On October 8, I journeyed to Pittsburgh, his hometown, for a memorial service with his family and friends from that area. This provided much-needed closure for me. We weren’t able to do the service here in Norfolk, Virginia, because of money and time constraints. In Pittsburgh, I was able to eulogize my beloved Steve at that service. Within that eulogy, one of my goals was to relay lessons that I had learned from this tragedy that has changed my life forever. When someone very close to you dies or even when your dream dies (my dream of doing married life with Steve died on that day), if you’ll remember the following thoughts you will fare much better in your healing process:

  1. When the bottom drops out, refuse to get mad at God. Sometimes when things don’t go your way, you may be tempted to get offended at God and withdraw. This is a huge mistake because in doing so, you cut yourself off from the very Person who can heal and restore you. Instead, do your level best to cling to God, receive His comfort and instructions for recalibrating your life and move confidently forward.
  2. When a loved one dies, focus on his or her highest good.  Normally we focus on ourselves and our pain. We ask , “What will I do?” “How will I carry on?” “What will become of me?” “Who will meet my needs?” However, love is not self-seeking (I Corinthians 13:5). Therefore you must seek to prioritize your focus upon the other person’s highest good and not your own pain and loss. Surely you must grieve, but at the end of the day, if that person died in Christ, and you want to keep your sanity, you must focus on his or her highest good. Shift you focus on the reward received by the one you dearly loved and let that bring you comfort. That’s what love does.
  3. Submit to the sovereignty and omniscience of God. We don’t always understand why things happen the way they do. God is sovereign and can do what He wants to do, whenever He wants to do it. He is omniscient and knows everything. Therefore, when you suffer a loss, you must understand that God knows things about the situation at hand to which you have not been made privy. Therefore, when you don’t understand what God is doing, you must shift to a mode of trusting God with everything within you based on the knowledge that He loves you and has your best interests at heart.
  4. Hold to people and things loosely. As a believer, you must give God permission to control the flow of people and things in and out of your life. If you refuse to do so, you are destined to suffer pain and disappointment as a result. Make sure that God is the center of your world and nothing and no one else. Refuse to make yourself vulnerable to the enemy, setting yourself up for the ultimate collapse of your world. When you commit idolatry, God is obligated to show you that He will not allow you to have other gods before Him (Exodus 20:3). However, when God remains at the center of your world, regardless of who or what comes or goes, you stand on a firm foundation and come what may, your life will indeed remain stable.

These were lessons I have learned through my painfully tragic situation, but what gives me comfort is knowing that Steve was in Christ, and he is now in the arms of Jesus. No more stress and struggle for my baby.  He is basking in the glory of God. I loved him very much, and I am so thankful to God for the time that we had together. Steve loved God. He loved and accepted me just as I was, and that in turn empowered me to love and accept myself. He was an excellent communicator, and he, in fact, taught me how to be a better communicator. Finally, he always made sure that I knew how much he honored, respected, and cherished me. I will be forever grateful to God for the time we had together. Our relationship was His gift to me. I have been forever changed by Steve’s presence and his departure from my life. May you rest in peace, My Love. May you rest in peace.

What lessons have you learned in the midst of tragedy? Please leave a comment below.

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