Have you ever asked yourself, “What’s wrong with me?”  or said to yourself, “Something’s wrong with me”?  I use to say that all the time.  The devil wanted me to focus on my flaws so that he could kill me with condemnation. He plants these thoughts in our minds and then tries to make us think that they are our thoughts.  Lisa Bevere once said, “Why ask that question? Even if you know what’s wrong with you, you can’t fix it! You’re still messed up.” I thought deeply about it and concluded that she’s so right. I can’t fix what is wrong with me. Only Jesus can. So what can we do to get free of the “What’s Wrong with Me?” Trap?

Stop asking unfruitful questions. When it comes to our emotional issues and spiritual growth, we need to stop asking, “What’s wrong with me?”  That signifies that we are too self-focused. Excessive self-preoccupation will lead to all kinds of emotional ills. The truth is, as a part of the human race, we are all flawed in some way. None of us has it all together.  None of us has the total package no matter where we are in our journey with Christ. Like Paul, we all have our “thorn in the flesh.” We need not condemn ourselves because, 1) Jesus is our righteousness and He is our “gap filler”; 2) God installed our weaknesses and flaws purposely so that we can stay dependent upon him.

Follow Instructions. We have to stop wallowing in condemnation about what’s wrong with us. Romans 1:8 says there is no condemnation to those who are in Christ Jesus. God wants to convict us of what He wants us to change in us, and He wants us to follow the instructions He gives for moving forward and getting better. We are not to focus on the issue, but what He has told us to do.

Let God do His job. It’s not our job to focus on what’s wrong with us. God will bring to our attention those things He wants to help us to deal with. David said in Psalm 139:23-24, “Search me, O God, and know my heart; Try me and know my anxious thoughts; And see if there be any hurtful way in me, And lead me in the everlasting way.” God is to do the searching and He is to do the leading into new ways of thinking and behaving.  But you ask, doesn’t the Bible say to examine yourself? Yes, it’s true that II Corinthians 13:5-6 talks about examining yourself to see if you are IN FAITH. It says nothing about examining yourself for flaws. That’s the Holy Spirit’s job to convict of sin and show us where we are missing it (John 16:8).

Behold the Lord. Instead of looking at yourself, and focusing on your flaws (that you can’t change without the help of the Holy Spirit, I might add), II Corinthians 3:18 says, “But we all, with open face beholding as in a glass the glory of the Lord, are changed into the same image from glory to glory, even as by the Spirit of the Lord.” We are to behold the Lord, and when we do, we are changed into His image. We are not to behold our flaws and weaknesses.  How do we behold the Lord? We focus on the Word of God in the areas we need change, and the Word will change us via God’s supernatural power.

Beloved, if you are constantly asking yourself, “What’s wrong with me?” just ask the Lord to search you, try you, and lead you as David did. He knows exactly what work needs to be done in you and He has a specific plan for getting you to the place where He wants you to be in Christ. Be determined to Focus on the Lord, and not let the enemy distract you with trying to make you focus on what’s wrong with you and feel condemnation.  In the meantime, Because Jesus is your righteousness, know that you are accepted in the beloved while God is changing you. He loves you and accepts you just the way you are right now, but He loves you too much to allow you to stay as you are.  That’s why you can exhale and accept yourself as a part of the human race, with the knowledge that nobody is perfect except the Lord Jesus Christ Himself. He will change you from glory to glory in His good timing as you behold His face by spending quality time in the Word of God.

If you have ever dealt with getting free of the “What’s Wrong with Me?” Trap, what was most difficult for you?

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